i agree that an gt35r is a bit much for a goal of 300bhp. i think if you looked at some other builds you would see that a couple of holsets do the job nicely and can be had in good useable shape for the cost of a knock-off chinese turbo and will likely last longer. i know that the hx-35's compressor map matched up very well with an average 3.0l v6 up to about 450bhp.
the turbo flange is entirely changeable, i am running a t4 flange because its what came on my turbo from shadow, and likely its what i'll stay with when i upgrade to a larger turbo. i have nothing bad to say about anyone elses turbo setup's, mine and ed's are totally different beasts and are catered to different demands, so comparing is kind of a moot point, and yes, a manifold like mine and an equal length version do flow more efficiently and will result in a greater ability to make power, thats why you dont often see log manifolds in the top of any big motorsports competitions unless mandated too. there have been many tests that compare a log to unequal length, to an equal length, and the tubular manifolds always win out, admittedly the equal length is always the most efficient. (i wanted to make mine equal length but i had problems packaging such a manifold in my engine bay) its true that they are more expensive but they wont be made of unobtainium, i just got to sit down and properly figure out where you can have a fair price.
i made a ss 3" exhaust all the way back, with the way i tucked the back manifold in against the block i got room for a 4" plus downpipe for down the road. i made my own exhaust, but there are vendors that make some real nice setup's for a great price.