I don't think anyone runs a pulley as small as the 3.0 guys and the only thing we ever see is headlights dimming if the idle bogs down.
I will eventually get a small pulley on my megasquirted car but I don't forsee a problem with maintaining voltage. When you have a problem that nobody else has, its probably not due to a part that everyone is using.
More then likely you have some bad wiring (or a mistake) or something on its way out.
When you ground a wideband to a different location then your ecu, your readings become suspect. Something as simple as that makes a wideband give you bunk results.
If your radio has a ground that is higher resistance then the ground on another device that looks at voltage, you are going to get different results. The Wideband and ecu need a common ground when running megasquirt so you can trust your datalogs to represent what was actually measured by the wideband device, not whatever the ECU was able to figure out with its better/worse ground. That assumes your wideband device is calibrated correctly.
My external regulator works great, but when I originally wired up megasquirt it was a piggyback install.
Not really sure what you really want since you already know all the answers :P
I don't know what your wideband issue is but as long as everything is properly wired and grounded, the voltage regulator is not a big deal. I think you are just bringing up fuel pump output as a mental reinforcement that its not a waste of your time to go external. Making up reasons
If you keep the OEM ECU, I see no point in adding something else that can fail. If you want to ditch the ecu, then its obviously a necessity.
My real question on an external is installing it inside the cabin to avoid heat vs installing it super close to the alternator to have minimal wiring and maybe see it control voltage a bit smoother.
Mine fluctuates about between 14.6 and 13.8 (but never very far at one time) when driving hard and barely moves when cruising. Whenever your RPM's are changing its constantly trying to correct the voltage back to nominal. The faster rpms change, the more it hiccups.
Voltage changes like that are scary because that can change injector output and fuel pump output enough to hurt something when you are on the edge.